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Life after COVID-19: Recovered New Yorkers find hope in helping others

On a drizzly May听day in New York City, Jim Burke lugs a cart of groceries through his Jackson Heights neighborhood. He isn鈥檛 headed home. The goods are for neighbors.

He pauses on the sidewalk in his mask and gloves. 鈥淚t鈥檚 almost kind of selfish,鈥� he says, to get joy out of giving.听

Earlier this spring, Mr. Burke spent 10 days struggling alone in his apartment with COVID-19. He鈥檇 muster all his might to get up and shave, then collapse back into bed for the rest of the day, feeling worse than ever before in his life.听

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Since mid-April, he鈥檚 found the strength to drop off bags of donated groceries for Covid Care Neighbor Network, a mutual aid group based in Queens.听Used to busy days volunteering as a transportation and LGBTQ activist, he鈥檇 been itching to rejoin community service once he recovered.听听

鈥淚t made me feel good for the first time in a long time,鈥� he says.

Globally, more than 3 million people have recovered from , according to data tracked by Johns Hopkins University. In New York, more than 68,000 have recovered 鈥� more than double the lives lost. Home to the previous epicenter of the virus, the state reported its lowest daily count of hospitalizations and deaths last Friday, down to 35 deaths from a high of 800 reached one day in April. The Big Apple听began听Phase 1 of reopening on Monday.听

Yet as medical uncertainty about the virus persists, survivors are defining recovery on their own terms. Pain, frustration, and fear of the unknown are common, but so is transformation. Several New Yorkers have begun to pour their renewed energies into giving, recognizing that their city鈥檚 road to recovery persists. As healing continues, they say serving others also fortifies themselves.

鈥淲hen you help, you feel much better,鈥� says Nima Sherpa, a recovered nurse. 鈥淚 felt like we got a new life, and we should try our best to participate.鈥�

Ms. Sherpa found herself in two places at once.听Her mind often traipsed home to Nepal as she healed from symptoms of COVID-19.听Eyes closed on her bed in Queens, she also stood on a Himalayan peak, lungs filled with azure air.听

Unable to get tested as her health declined in听early March, the nurse scrambled to find one for her husband, who fared much worse. It took three tries before he was diagnosed 鈥撎齛 frustration shared by many New Yorkers who faced a testing shortage early on. Her sons, ages 10 and 16, also became sick.听

鈥淚 would cry and then I would wipe my tears鈥� in the bathroom, she says, before returning to her family鈥檚 side with medicine and soup.听

Though not usually religious, she turned to Buddhist mantras she learned as a child. She coaxed her bedridden husband to recite them, too. 鈥淚 felt like it was helping us to breathe,鈥� she says.听听

Ms. Sherpa took particular comfort in a mantra that evokes听Green Tara, goddess of compassionate action. She recalled the image of the goddess鈥� unique posture 鈥� one foot slightly forward, as if poised to rise.听

鈥淢y grandmother used to say she鈥檚 like that because she鈥檚 ready for anyone who needs help,鈥� says Ms. Sherpa.

Fittingly, the Mount Sinai nurse has become a helpline for her own Nepalese community in Queens. As she awaits听a return to work, she has waded through a daily flood of texts, Facebook messages, and phone calls from people worried about exposure to the virus, often in her native Nepali and Sherpa languages.听She听tries her best to soothe the fear and anxiety on the other end of the line.听

鈥淭hat鈥檚 the most important part,鈥� she says.听

Though her outreach tapered off mid-May as her family escaped to Colorado, Ms. Sherpa says she remains in touch with several strangers in New York who have received her support. Some call back with news of their own recovery.听

Others have found renewed purpose in returning to work. Jasoda Latchman, a recovered NYC Health + Hospitals nurse from Ozone Park, Queens, tested positive for COVID-19 in March. Now she鈥檚 back听at her hospital in the Bronx, reaching patients via telehealth to respect social distancing.

鈥淚 love what I do, so I love to be back,鈥� says Ms. Latchman on a lunch break call. 鈥淚 would not [let] the COVID virus push me away.鈥澨�

Mounting evidence suggests humans may be hard-wired for . Giving to others benefits health, mood, and even overcoming adversity, research shows.听听

鈥淭here is a strong relationship between resilience and altruism,鈥� says Steven Southwick, professor emeritus of psychiatry, post-traumatic stress disorder, and resilience at Yale University School of Medicine. 鈥淚t鈥檚 very well known that giving support increases one鈥檚 social and emotional well-being, and decreases our stress responses.鈥�

In the wake of World War II aerial bombardments, people who felt satisfied caring for the immediate needs of others developed fewer trauma-related symptoms than expected. This research introduced the phenomenon called 鈥渞equired helpfulness,鈥� he notes in his book, 鈥淩esilience: The Science of Mastering Life鈥檚 Greatest Challenges.鈥�

Research by behavioral scientist Carolyn Schwartz has found that helping others may benefit mental health even more than receiving help. For both medical patients and nonpatients alike, helping others can lead people to find meaning in their own life challenges, says Dr. Schwartz, president and chief scientist at DeltaQuest Foundation, a medical research nonprofit in Massachusetts.听

鈥淏y being able to help other people, it can transform the experience of something that makes all of us a victim to something that gives us agency,鈥� says Dr. Schwartz, who is seeking participants for a study on psychological resilience during the pandemic.

Yet some recovered volunteers say they are still grappling with what they outlived. Surviving the virus in a community that is still grieving 鈥渢akes a toll,鈥� says Covid Care volunteer coordinator Dawn Falcone.

鈥淚 feel like it鈥檚 a good day if I don鈥檛 know anybody who passed away,鈥� she told the Monitor in April.

Mr. Burke is also mourning the loss of several friends and acquaintances. 鈥淚鈥檓 going to be processing this for a while. ... Part of me feels like I cheated death,鈥� he says.听听

Much about the new coronavirus still eludes scientists.听There are no definitive answers yet on immunity and long-term effects of COVID-19. 鈥淪o far, no studies have answered these important questions,鈥澨齛ccording to a World Health Organization statement sent to the Monitor.听

In the United States, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention offers 听of recovery for symptomatic health care workers looking to return to work: one based on symptoms, the other on testing.听Some doctors are pursuing experimental treatments that involve the听blood plasma of those who have recovered 鈥� a century-old approach used to treat past viral outbreaks, including coronaviruses SARS and MERS.

Diana Berrent sums up recovery as a 鈥渂izarre, sort of liminal state.鈥� She鈥檚 made the most of it by donating plasma six times and founding a grassroots movement, Survivor Corps.听

She calls the virtual community the 鈥渆picenter of hope鈥� that aims to hasten the pandemic鈥檚 end and help develop a cure. Survivor Corps鈥� gathers research and how-to resources for mobilizing plasma donors, while its 54,000-member offers a space for solidarity.听

After testing positive for COVID-19 on Long Island in March, Ms. Berrent first envisioned organizing a global group akin to a COVID-19 Peace Corps, even offering hands for the dying to hold without adding risk to hospitals. But given the unsolved mystery of reinfection, she鈥檚 focused her efforts on donating her own antibody-rich plasma to science听and calling on others to participate in听the evolving research.

鈥淭o think that I鈥檓 actively contributing to the research that can bring about a cure to this is such an incredibly empowering idea and motivation,鈥� she says. 鈥淲hat we鈥檙e seeing on the Survivor Corps group is people who are in the thick of the illness literally counting down the days until they can be part of that solution.鈥�

Dean E. Williams Jr. joined Survivor Corps on Facebook and recently donated plasma. Having overcome the virus in isolation, he yearns to reunite with others.听

Mr. Williams says he didn鈥檛 fear death. As he struggled to breathe alone in his Harlem apartment, his greatest fear was disappointing his 5-year-old daughter. He says he spent more than two months without seeing her as he quarantines in New York and she stays听with family in another state. Online chess games and her reading of 鈥淭he Very Hungry Caterpillar鈥� over Skype has helped.听

In her absence, the recovered Harlem Rotary Club president keeps busy with community outreach and organizing meal donations. He says his daughter joined him in community service as early as age 2, and hopes to bring her along volunteering when they鈥檙e reunited. In the meantime, a virtual sandwich-making party to benefit local food banks might soon be in order.听

While they continue to live apart, a highlight came in mid-May as he was able to visit her for the first time in weeks 鈥� showering promptly after his arrival before they could embrace.

鈥淚t was the biggest hug she鈥檚 ever received from me,鈥� he says. 鈥淪he had the biggest smile on her face.鈥�

Editor鈥檚 note: As a public service,听all our coronavirus coverage听is free. No paywall.