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A little boy at a Parisian park stood defiant when his father told him on a recent Sunday that it was time to go home. When the stern 鈥渁rr锚te!鈥� made the tantrum worse, the father gave him a quick smack on his bottom, called in French聽la fess茅e.

It drew little attention here, where a parent鈥檚 authority is prized. But it is an action that human rights advocates hope will eventually become punishable.

A strongly worded condemnation from the Council of Europe this week of French tolerance for mild corporal punishment 鈥� coming just a few days after the scene at the Paris park 鈥� is heating up debate on the Continent. Where the French see an intrusion into family life, not to mention possible criminalization of parenting, anti-spanking advocates see a needed spur to change cultural attitudes.

Spanking has been falling dramatically out of favor with human rights advocates over the past decade. Pope Francis set off a firestorm recently when he seemed to condone it, calling a father鈥檚 slap 鈥渂eautiful鈥� because it was dignified 鈥� not across the face. But those who support freedom to spank say banning it undermines parents 鈥� and could be one more step toward a child-dominant society that, as one Swedish psychologist puts it, makes parents afraid to discipline and risks a new generation of 鈥渂rats.鈥�

But advocates of a ban say the ruling could embarrass France 鈥� which allows leeway in physical discipline for family members as long as it's not abusive 鈥� into falling more in line with the majority of the European Union. The Council of Europe, which has a handful of pending cases to rule on by spring, made its position clear when it declared there is 鈥渘ow a wide consensus at both the European and international level among human rights bodies that the corporal punishment of children should be expressly and comprehensively prohibited in law.鈥�

鈥淲hat has changed in the last decade is that now the human rights community is united [in the belief that] corporal punishment is a violation of their rights,鈥� says Peter Newell, coordinator of the UK-based Global Initiative to End All Corporal Punishment of Children, whose legal entity Approach brought the case against France. The aim is not to create a class of parent perpetrators and see those like the French father actually fined, he says, but rather to change cultural attitudes the same way acceptance of slapping or shoving a woman has changed.

Sweden was the first in the world to implement a ban on corporal punishment in 1979. To date, 44 countries have prohibited corporal punishment in all settings, including the home. In the EU, 19 of 28 states either have a full ban or are committed to having one. Britain and France have not. Corporal punishment of children is not illegal in the US.

Child abuse is illegal in France, but 鈥渞ight of correction鈥� is allowed for educational purposes. The Council of Europe ruling centers around the fact that the French clause violates its commitment to the European Social Charter, which states that 鈥渄omestic law must prohibit and penalize all forms of violence against children.鈥�

But Laurence Rossignol, French family minister, has said France doesn鈥檛 need a new law. 鈥淔or abusive parents, we have a penal code,鈥� she told Agence France-Presse. For those who resort to occasional punishment, she added, 鈥渨e need to help them do things differently and not discredit them by saying 鈥榯he judge is coming to deal with that.鈥欌��

Gilles Lazimi, head of the Foundation for Childhood, faults a lack of political will in France. His organization aired a segment on television in 2013 of a mother slapping her son when he wouldn鈥檛 quiet down as she was on the phone and trying to get dinner on the table. The scene is then aired in slow motion, showing a dramatic contortion of the child鈥檚 face.

It caused an uproar as many French said it unfairly dramatized the effects of a 鈥渓ittle slap.鈥� But Mr. Lazimi鈥檚 point was that 鈥渢here is no such thing as a little slap,鈥� he says.

Still, polls have shown some 80 percent in France opposing a spanking ban as a violation of rights in the private sphere. Many say they don't necessarily spank but want to reserve the right if an action justifies it, such as running out into the street. And that鈥檚 a sentiment that David Eberhard, a Swedish psychologist, can understand. 鈥淚f that is the culture you have, the way it鈥檚 been done, and everyone is doing it, and it鈥檚 working, why should I have a ban?鈥�

Dr. Eberhard, author of 鈥淗ow Children Took Power,鈥� says he does not personally support spanking. But he does lament that parents, in Sweden and beyond, are increasingly afraid to hand down consequences to their children. 鈥淚鈥檓 not saying you shouldn鈥檛 listen to them, but the family is not a democracy, there is an asymmetric relationship.鈥�

The French seem to still believe in the asymmetry of the family, at least based on anecdotal evidence. American journalist Pamela Druckerman detailed in 鈥淏ringing Up B茅b茅鈥� the differences in the no-nonsense style of French parents v. the indulgence of Anglos, summarizing that French children simply behave better.

But Mr. Newell says that, at least when it comes to corporal punishment, differences in attitudes do not reflect a differing culture towards violence or authoritarianism, just different political action.

In fact, such bans are never popular. 鈥淚t has been a traditional practice with a lot of social approval forever. 鈥� Our main challenge is that most adults were hit as children,鈥� he says.

But like the smoking bans or seatbelt laws of earlier years that were hotly contested at the outset, new norms quickly take shape. In 鈥渃ountries like Sweden, Finland, Norway, and Austria, where the law has been enforced for some time, you see quite dramatic changes in the level of support among the public.鈥�