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on how people would react to the State Department鈥檚 recent report stating that Hillary Clinton violated federal standards in her use of a private e-mail server 鈥� and that past secretaries of State were slow to follow standards 鈥� hit the nail on the head:

鈥淚f you thought Hillary Clinton was corrupt, you just had all of your suspicions validated. And if you thought this whole thing was no big deal, you just had all of your suspicions validated.鈥�

Funny or disheartening, this is nothing unusual. We love being right.

Another case in point 鈥� President Obama鈥檚 recent trip to Hiroshima.

Many Obama supporters see this as a historic trip supporting his vision of a world with fewer nuclear weapons. Others note that and that we are planning to seriously .

For Obama鈥檚 supporters expecting better from a president who speaks so eloquently about the need to reduce nuclear weapons, this contradiction is the result of being forced to compromise with Republicans.

For many hawks, these actions reflect Obama鈥檚 recognition of reality, including the dismal .

For peaceniks, this shows once again Obama鈥檚 lack of true conviction for the cause of peace.

For detractors from the right, this is another example of , a dangerous practice as it sets America up with false hopes and false narratives that direct us toward wishful thinking and away from practical solutions to real problems.聽

Once again, prior beliefs are confirmed, regardless of which side of the debate you support.

This tendency is remarkably powerful. And being smarter might make you even more susceptible to this bias.

A showed that people are more likely to get a math problem wrong if the conclusion conflicted with their prior belief. More surprisingly, the better people are at math, the more likely they are to get the math wrong if it goes against their prior beliefs.

This is one of the reasons I believe there is no such thing as unbiased, at least not when people are involved. (And don鈥檛 blindly trust technology like Facebook鈥檚 Trending Topics, either.) Everyone is biased by what they know, what they don鈥檛 know, and all of their life experiences.

So faced with that reality, how can we as individuals in a representative democracy approach and respond to the issues of today in the best possible way, not overly influenced by biases that may lead us down the wrong path?

Last weekend, I participated in a two-hour conversation with five others about the future of nuclear weapons. We followed the structure 鈥� a powerful format designed to revitalize civil discourse in America and bridge the gap between conservatives and liberals. We made sure this small group represented a breadth of perspectives and experiences, including political ideology (half left, half right), ages (from 19 to 71), gender (four women, two men), and ethnicity (four white, two minority). Not perfect, but OK.

It鈥檚 been more than 70 years since the first and last nuclear bombs were used, and we all shared the common desire to see no nuclear bomb incidents in the next 70 years. No one walked in the room with a pre-conceived solution, but you did hear some stereotypical positions.

From the left, we heard the argument and the 鈥渘o more nukes 鈥� it鈥檚 just logical鈥� position. On the right, we heard more breakdowns of today鈥檚 nuclear threat (current stockpiles, proliferation, nonstate and rogue-state actors, and safety), plus a willingness to discuss proactive measures, such as .

But you also saw an appreciation for people from the other side and even some of their positions. Though I personally have hawk tendencies, I was moved by the guns versus butter argument, and want to know more about how the $700 billion will be spent on modernizing our nuclear weapon systems. Though the college student expressed a traditional 鈥渘o nukes 鈥� we can talk this out鈥� bent, she was the most interested and vocal about learning more about the nuclear threat from our ex-military participant.

Yes, we can have civil conversations about hot topics. And yes, even though our stances rarely change overnight, they can be improved, moderated and changed over time when we are in a safe environment exposed to a variety of perspectives, facts and personalities. And working together becomes even easier when we realize we are all in the same boat, as social psychologist .

There is much more to discuss about bias, polarization and how we as a society can reach beyond that. I鈥檒l save that for later articles. So for now 鈥�

Especially when it comes to life and death issues like nuclear weapons, let鈥檚 go beyond our petty difference and biases. We can listen and learn from each other, and protect ourselves and future generations. It鈥檚 worth the effort.聽

John Gable is founder and CEO of , a media technology company that helps you see, understand and discuss multiple perspectives. The crowd-driven technologies at 聽provide bias ratings, news, issues, search and civil dialogs that reveal a wide variety of perspectives and build bridges between conflicting ideas and people.