When is marriage child abuse? Shifting attitudes bring reforms.
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When Democratic Gov. Roy Cooper of North Carolina signed a law last month raising the age of marriage from 14 to 16 years old, those seeking an end to child marriage didn鈥檛 exactly celebrate.
鈥淚t鈥檚 a positive step. It鈥檚 better than nothing,鈥� says Antonia Kirkland, global lead for legal equality at Equality Now, a nonprofit working to achieve legal systemic change to end violence and discrimination against women worldwide.
If her response was muted, it鈥檚 because children can still get married in North Carolina and because only six states nationwide outlaw marriage before age 18 with no exceptions. Still, advocates like Ms. Kirkland are hopeful that the law signifies changing attitudes regarding the differences between childhood and adulthood 鈥� legally, emotionally, and physically.
Why We Wrote This
The modern idea of marriage is built on a foundation of love and partnership. Increasingly, states are rethinking how young is too young to enter into such a contract, as advocates lobby lawmakers to close child marriage loopholes.
The shift in thinking about this issue started gaining traction in 2015 when the United Nations鈥� sustainable development goals led to Girls Not Brides, a global partnership with the goal of ending child marriage worldwide by 2030. Since then, advocacy groups in the United States have worked to persuade state legislatures to end what they describe as America鈥檚 鈥渕arriage problem.鈥�
鈥淧eople are more aware that it鈥檚 really harmful to be married before the age of 18, not just globally, but in the United States. Girls should be girls, not brides,鈥� Ms. Kirkland says, echoing the U.N.鈥檚 call to action.
Nationwide, more than 200,000聽minors were estimated to have been聽legally married between 2000 and 2018, according to a study by聽, a nonprofit pushing to end child marriage in the U.S. The majority of those were girls married to adult men who were significantly older.聽Precise numbers aren鈥檛 available since data was only available from 41 states, according to an August 2020 International Research on Women report.
And while the number of child marriages nationwide decreased sharply during the 18-year span of Unchained鈥檚 study 鈥� there were an estimated聽76,396 in 2000 and 2,493 in 2018 鈥� the goal should be zero, argues Fraidy Reiss, founder and executive director of Unchained at Last.聽
Although many picture two teens eager to begin their lives together on equal footing, the reality is that many of these marriages involve young girls and much older men. 鈥淚t鈥檚 not [romantic],鈥� Ms. Reiss says. 鈥滻n fact the U.S. State Department has called marriage under 18 a聽.鈥�
The persistence of forced marriage
Ms. Reiss鈥� own experience inspired her to launch Unchained in 2011. Raised in an ultra-Orthodox Jewish community in Brooklyn, Ms. Reiss was 19 when her parents forced her to marry a man several years her senior, who, she says, turned out to be violent. Ms. Reiss fled the marriage 12 years later and eventually divorced him and left the Hasidic community.
After graduating from Rutgers with a degree in journalism, Ms. Reiss began working with women who, too, were trying to flee forced marriages.
One view enshrined in many state laws is that, in some cases, marriage is appropriate for people under 18 if their decision is vetted by their parents, the courts, and in some cases both. As Ms. Reiss researched the issue, she concluded a year into her work that the only way to end forced marriages, many of which involved underage girls, was to advocate for a firm age limit.
Aside from meeting with lawmakers and traveling the country to raise awareness about child marriage, Ms. Reiss and other supporters of Unchained at Last will frequently protest in front of statehouses dressed in bridal gowns and veils, with chains around their wrists.
There are signs the movement is having an impact.聽
Since Delaware became the first state to outlaw marriage under the age of 18, with no exceptions, in 2018, another 25 states have strengthened laws about the minimum age of marriage, according to the聽. Kansas, Michigan, and Maine are among several other states with pending legislation that would ban all marriages before age 18.
The shift among state lawmakers聽includes an awareness that if minors wed, they often face devastating economic, educational, physical, and emotional consequences.
Girls or young women who marry before age 19 are 50% more likely to drop out of high school and only 25% as likely to complete college, according to Unchained. Additionally, girls who marry before they turn 16 are about 31% more likely to end up in poverty, and they face serious health risks, including death due to early and closely spaced pregnancies.聽
Young people under age 18 have few legal rights. As more than one expert explained, minors can鈥檛 enter contracts, they can鈥檛 hire a lawyer, they can鈥檛 go to shelters if the marriage is abusive, and in some states police will treat married girls as runaways and return them to homes they are trying to escape.
A shifting patchwork in state laws
In July, New York became the sixth state to raise the age of consent for marriage to 18, without exceptions.
Even some states with high rates of child marriage 鈥� such as Nevada, Arkansas, Kentucky, Utah, and Mississippi 鈥� . For example, in Utah, children could once marry as young as age 16 with parental consent and as young as 15 with both parental and judicial consent. In 2019 that was changed so 16- and 17-year-olds could marry only if they had both parental and judicial consent.
Not all states are embracing stricter legislation, or at least not quickly. In some states, there is support but it鈥檚 not a legislative priority. In other states, such as California and Louisiana, some lawmakers and groups like the American Civil Liberties Union maintain that it鈥檚 government overreach to decide age appropriateness when it comes to marriage. Still others have argued that it鈥檚 unnecessary to raise the marriage age to 18 since there are already existing laws that protect girls from exploitation.
But according to Lisa Jean Moore, a sociology and gender studies professor at Purchase College in New York, throughout history norms of marriage 鈥� including child marriage 鈥� have commonly emerged from patriarchal systems that viewed women and girls as little more than property.聽
鈥淭here is also a culture of vast sexual exploitation of children in the country,鈥� says Ms. Moore, 鈥渁nd lawmakers can look at this [allowing for child marriage] as a twisted way of protecting girls.鈥�
The laws are 鈥渢wisted,鈥� as Ms. Moore and other proponents of ending the practice say, because they can be used to force young victims of rape who become pregnant to marry their adult perpetrators. Additionally, child marriage subjects minors to state-sanctioned statutory rape. According to , it is a defense for the crime of statutory rape of a minor under age 16 if the people are married to each other.
鈥淭hey are 鈥榞et out of jail free鈥� laws,鈥� says Max Robins, founder and executive director of the nonprofit Students Against Child Marriage.聽
A double major in political and data science, the American University student first learned about the issue back in 2017 when he read about it in a national newspaper.
The nonprofit has grown quickly since its launch in 2019. Today, with chapters at universities and high schools across the country, it teams up with other advocacy groups like Unchained to convince legislators to change marriage laws.聽聽
鈥淭here is definitely a bit of American exceptionalism when it comes to the issue 鈥� the idea that it happens in other countries, but not here,鈥� says Mr. Robins. 鈥淗owever, once there is an awareness about it, it鈥檚 a bipartisan subject that legislators can get behind.鈥�
