海角大神

Two years ago, my son sat me down for a talk.

鈥淢om, it鈥檚 time,鈥� he said.

He fidgeted. As a tall 11-year-old, he looked older than he was. I braced myself for what might be coming.

鈥淗ear me out: It鈥檚 time we got actual TV. And you need an iPhone.鈥�

Normally, I would have laughed him off. My base-model Tracfone was perfectly fine. And we鈥檇 never had cable TV or satellite or Hulu.听

But his serious tone made me pause.

He went online and found me a great deal on a new iPhone 5S. After I grudgingly purchased it, I was touched by how sweetly he set it up for me and walked me through a full tutorial. When the battery recently began draining quickly, he picked out a charging phone case. He set it up and taught me how to use it.

And yes, we also got satellite TV, which allows us to watch the news together before school and catch current episodes of our favorite shows.

This funny conversation two years ago marked a shift in our relationship. Perhaps for the first time, I began to really listen to my son鈥檚 opinion about our home technology. Since his reasoning was sound and his suggestions within budget, I took his advice and was pleasantly surprised with the results.听

I鈥檇 known for a while that my son understands technology better than I do. On airplanes, he grabs my phone to put it in airplane mode, same with silencing it in movie theaters. He wired the speakers in our house. After something was stolen from our front yard, he picked out, set up, and now monitors our security camera. When my computer died, I took him shopping with me.听

As a teenager now, he towers over me. He has a busy social life, with skateboarding, basketball, sleepovers, and online gaming. Once a week, he stays after school to go to the Dairy Queen with his bros.

I see our time together waning and our shared interests shrinking.

That鈥檚 why I jumped at the chance when a friend mentioned a possible gig writing technology reviews. I鈥檓 a writer by trade, but I鈥檇 need a partner who is a whole lot more tech savvy than yours truly. When I presented the idea to my teen, he immediately accepted. Of course, the free swag was appealing, too.

After our interview process and trial period, we were hired. We divided up the work: He does the testing and photography; I write the review, edit the photos, and post everything online.

We鈥檙e now several months into the job, posting a couple of reviews a month. It鈥檚 changed our relationship in surprising ways. Where he used to get annoyed quickly at my technical ignorance, he鈥檚 learned to be more patient and explain things to me in a way that I can convey to an equally unknowing audience.

It also provides a neutral topic for us. There鈥檚 no pressure, defiance, or annoyance, as when we talk about grades, sports, friends, or which activities he is or isn鈥檛 allowed to participate in. The parent-child dynamic is not only changed; it鈥檚 even slightly reversed. He鈥檚 leading me. I鈥檓 asking him for help and advice.

My son has risen to the occasion. He鈥檚 taking it seriously, and to watch him mature in this way is an honor. As someone who鈥檚 not much of a reader, he now scours instruction manuals. Without any prompting, he鈥檚 even emailed and called 鈥� yes, made an actual phone call 鈥� to customer service or tech support when sample products weren鈥檛 working as expected.

It鈥檚 fun, too! Blasting music and yelling to see how soundproof those headphones are. Walking across the yard to test the range of a Wi-Fi extender. Seeing if a robot vacuum can avoid plunging down the stairs.听

Then we think critically about each item and discuss what we liked and what could be improved, whether it鈥檚 worth it. Sometimes we differ. But that simply provides more fodder for the review.

And even when we ask to review items that wind up with other reviewers 鈥� a 3D printer or a gaming chair 鈥� it鈥檚 fun to dream together and talk about how we鈥檇 have tested them.听

I never imagined being a tech reviewer, but it鈥檚 proved to be a valuable way to learn from, work with, and enjoy time with my teen.听

I even got a robovac out of the deal.听