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Millions of American kids are back in school this month, including my own 鈥 a seventh grader and a high school junior.聽
For me, this new school year comes with a sense of relief. At our annual orientation, Superintendent Evan Anwyl made a few welcome announcements: Children are back in class with only a few COVID-19-related protocols. Masks are optional. Parents are allowed on campus this year, which means we can attend performances and help out in classrooms. I missed that last year.聽
But the most touching moment was when Mr. Anwyl revealed this year鈥檚 theme: kindness. Simple, actionable kindness.聽
Mr. Anwyl chose kindness for a few reasons: On a broad scale, he says that we鈥檙e coming out of pandemic schooling, still reckoning with a hostile political environment, and seeing an escalation of meanness on social media and in person.聽聽
A released earlier this year shows that sadness, hopelessness, and plans for suicide are all up among students.
At our school, in particular, Mr. Anwyl explained via email, there has been 鈥渁n uptick in kids simply being quicker to anger and, more importantly, expressing very valid emotions, such as anger, disgust, shame, etc., in unhealthy ways.鈥澛犅
Kindness, he said, helps students find 鈥渃onstructive ways of handling such emotions.鈥澛
He closed with something that gave me pause: 鈥淲e don鈥檛 have bad kids or bad families. I want to make that perfectly clear. We have both kids and families that need more encouragement and education to gain and use more positive tools of interaction and being.鈥
Releasing someone from a predetermined end is the kindest act I can imagine.