The Ann Romney flap and women's roles
Presidential campaigns often put a mirror up to Americans and expose their unresolved social issues. Take, for example, the comment on CNN by Democratic activist Hilary Rosen about stay-at-home mom Ann Romney.
Her slip-of-the-tongue criticism of Ms. Romney鈥檚 economic judgment has unleashed not just a political storm but pent-up public anxieties over women鈥檚 roles 鈥� especially whether a full-time nurturer of children has less worth than a woman in the workplace.
The debate is a recurring one. Recall the storm over Hillary Rodham Clinton鈥檚 campaign comment in 1992 that 鈥淚 could have stayed home and baked cookies and had teas, but what I decided to do was fulfill my profession.鈥�
For almost every woman, that choice can still be difficult 鈥� despite decades of progress for women. And government may help or hinder their choices by, say, providing better access to day care or restricting birth-control choices.
Taken at a deeper level, this issue is not just about women or gender roles. Rather, everyone must find the right balance between sacrificing for others and pursuing goals that are not so selfless.聽聽
Oddly enough, self-abnegation is quite common and may even be increasing.
Surveys of American college graduates find those who believe their community is more important than their job has doubled since 1982. And a 2011 global survey by a British charity group found that nearly half of all people had helped a stranger in the previous month 鈥� a much higher percentage than for those who gave money or volunteered. (The numbers for men and women were pretty close.)
Giving of one鈥檚 self is considered so sacrosanct that President Obama, in proposing the 鈥淏uffett rule鈥� of a 30 percent tax on millionaires, made one exception: a deduction for charitable donations.
Genetic scientists keep trying to find an 鈥渁ltruism gene鈥� that can explain unselfish behavior. They might do better by reading the 2010 book 鈥淎merican Grace鈥� by scholars Robert Putnam and David Campbell.
In a survey, they found religious Americans are better neighbors and volunteer at much higher rates for both religious and secular causes than do secular Americans. The reason is not so much theology as the bonds of friendship and common values that compel the faithful to do good deeds, the survey found. In finding God鈥檚 love, they love one another.
Some feminist scholars contend that girls are raised in a culture that imposes an 鈥渋deology鈥� of self-sacrifice upon them. Expose the imposition of being a caretaker and women will be free, they say. But that still does not resolve the choice of whether or how much one gives in life.
So the debate must go on, and in public during political campaigns. The 鈥渨omen鈥� issues in politics, however, aren鈥檛 always just about women.
