Moran writes that, in her experience, many women read meaning into random actions by the men they're dating. "'Listen to this e-mail,' a friend will say," she writes. "'He's put, "Rachel, good to see you! Great night! We should do it again sometime." That's really noncommittal, isn't it?' 'It does sound fairly noncommittal, yes,' I will agree. 'But then,' Rachel will go on, using the special 'slightly mad' tone of voice all women use during these conversations, 'he sent it at 4 p.m.' She pauses. I make a confused sound. '4 p.m.!' she says again. 'So he would still have been at work when he sent it! So maybe he was worried someone might look over his shoulder and see it, so he's kept it deliberately a little cool.' [Then she adds] 'I looked at his Facebook page, and he's changed his favorite songs list and included 'Here Comes the Hotstepper' by Ini Kamoze. AND WE WERE TALKING ABOUT INI KAMOZE DURING DINNER!' 'Rachel, I think that if he liked you, he'd just.... spend a lot more time with you, and say things like, "I really like you,"' I say. 'But don't you think that's kind of significant, though?' Rachel will plead. 'I don't think you change your Facebook playlist FOR NO REASON AT ALL. It's a message to me.' After an hour of this, I give up trying to persuade her that none of this means anything at all. There's no point in trying."
