Let it be: learning to let go and live in the moment
Let it be: learning to let go and live in the moment instead of constantly worrying about the future implications of yours and your children's emotions. Take a deep breath and simply accept what's happening right now.
Let it be: learning to let go and live in the moment instead of constantly worrying about the future implications of yours and your children's emotions. Take a deep breath and simply accept what's happening right now.
I just read a very powerful sentence in a wonderful book, "The Gift of an Ordinary聽Day,"聽by Katrina Kenison. She said, 鈥淎s soon as I stop wishing for things to be different, I am met by the beauty of what is.鈥�
How much time do we spend wishing for things to be different? I am one of those 鈥渢he grass must be greener over there鈥� people 鈥� always wondering 鈥渨hat if.鈥澛�
No matter what the present moment brings 鈥� whether it鈥檚 a child screaming in rage, a car that won鈥檛 start, angry words from a friend or relative, too little money 鈥� if it is negative, we tend to place blame elsewhere, decide we are at fault, or shutdown in hopelessness.
How hard it is to stop wishing for things to be different? What if we were able to say, 鈥淭his is what I have to deal with right now. This is what is happening. Let me stay right here and pay attention. It鈥檚 OK if I feel angry, embarrassed, impatient, bewildered, disappointed, afraid." Imagine just staying in that feeling and taking responsibility for it.
We want to retaliate, blame, find an answer, sweep the moment away and forget. 鈥淭he beauty of what is鈥� might not actually be beautiful, but when I can stay with what is and accept it, something beautiful happens.
I might say to myself, 鈥淭his sucks, I hate it, but it鈥檚 not the end of the world and I can deal with it.鈥� I actually begin to relax and my emotions tend to soften a bit.聽When I react in anger, all that happens is I create more and more resistance.
We鈥檙e so used to passing the buck, blaming someone or something else, that it is hard to just stay still and acknowledge, 鈥淭his is how I feel,鈥� or 鈥淭his is how my child is feeling right now.鈥� Especially with kids, we worry what this anger means for the future, we fret over why it鈥檚 happening and when will she ever learn, etc.
Why can鈥檛 we simply accept that this is what鈥檚 happening right now?
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