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When a high-powered executive publishes a book on leadership, there are good reasons to be skeptical. Thin on substance, high on self-flattery, this genre too often is simply PR dressed up as nonfiction.

But聽Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead聽by Sheryl Sandberg is an unexpected alternative to a sorry template. Sandberg 鈥� chief operating officer of Facebook, formerly a Google vice president and chief of staff at the Treasury Department 鈥� has written a brave book that is unabashedly personal and political.

It is provoking, too. "Lean In" ignited a spirited debate more than a month before it was even published. Talk about your cultural trigger! A high-profile woman discussing women and work, plainly stating that sexism is still part of our everyday lives? This is lightning-rod material.

Sandberg knows it, too. In the book, she tells stories about her experience bringing up gender in the workplace and unleashing unease, dismissive 鈥渉umor,鈥� defensiveness, and backlash. And with "Lean In" making headlines, Sandberg has become a target. Some critics shame her for making gender her 鈥渢hing,鈥� overplaying its significance; those on the other end of the spectrum complain that she buys too heavily into 鈥渢rickle down feminism,鈥� neglecting the challenges of women who don鈥檛 share her privileges, including the backing of one of the most powerful companies on earth.

There鈥檚 the context. Let鈥檚 get to the text.

"Lean In"聽illuminates the stagnancy of gender equity in the workplace, particularly in positions of power. While top-tier business schools and entry-level jobs may have an even gender breakdown, numbers skew as time progresses. Women became 50 percent of college graduates in the US in the early 1980s, Sandberg notes. But a generation later, only 21 women lead the Fortune 500 companies. Women hold 14 percent of executive officer positions, 16 percent of board seats, and are 18 percent of our elected Congress. For women of color, these numbers sink by two-thirds. So, Sandberg writes, women are outpacing men in education, but are not progressing as leaders in any industry. 鈥淭his means that when it comes to making the decisions that most affect our world, the voices of women are not heard equally.鈥�

And we haven鈥檛 even gotten to the pay gap yet.

"In 1970, American women were paid 59 cents for every dollar their male counterparts made. By 2010, women had protested, fought, and worked their butts off to raise that compensation to 77 cents for every dollar men made. As activist Marlo Thomas wryly joked on Equal Pay Day 2011, 'Forty years and eighteen cents. A dozen eggs have gone up ten times that amount.' 鈥�

So what鈥檚 the problem?

The 鈥渓ean in鈥� mantra is easily co-opted or misunderstood as suggesting that the lack of women with power in the richest country on earth is the fault of women themselves: They just don鈥檛 want it enough. "Lean In"聽skewers this limp rationalization by examining how women are selected out of the pool of talented leaders.

The pay gap itself can be justification for a woman to quit, or settle for a mid-level position, even if her husband might prefer to take on the at-home duties. Men are more likely to be mentored and sponsored by both male and female leaders. US childcare and parental leave policies are ridiculously old-fashioned. Men are more likely to be evaluated on future potential, while women are evaluated on past accomplishments. Sandberg spotlights a study, which distributed identical resumes, the only difference being the name: one version was for 鈥淗eidi,鈥� the other, 鈥淗oward.鈥� While both were viewed as equally competent, Howard was liked, while Heidi was seen as 鈥渟elfish鈥� and not 鈥渢he type of person you would want to hire or work for.鈥� Success and likeability go hand-in-hand for men; if a woman is successful, both men and women like her less.

These systemic barriers lead to the internalization of powerlessness that Sandberg addresses. Women see the glass ceiling, hear about the impossibility of 鈥渉aving it all,鈥� and then expect less from themselves, second-guessing their skills. They opt out of positions of influence while doing more than their share of work in the home. 鈥淲e compromise our career goals to make room for partners and children who many not even exist yet,鈥� Sandberg writes.

"Lean In"聽serves as a kind of philosophical and practical toolkit for women with ambitions of all kinds, and an education and inspiration for men who are aware that their workplaces and home lives are diminished when women are only a fraction of who they can be. Sandberg offers women dictums that sound simplistic 鈥� 鈥渟it at the table,鈥� 鈥渄on鈥檛 leave before you leave,鈥� 鈥� but have radical consequences. Her prose, tautly shaped in partnership with Nell Scovell, is data-driven, but accessible, brocaded with personal anecdotes that provide insight while never implying that Sandberg鈥檚 exceptional career is the exact template for all of us to follow. She鈥檚 also generous in citing the ideas of feminists and female leaders 鈥� Gloria Steinem, Jessica Valenti, Leymah Gbowee 鈥� and she does so without pretension, embodying the collective voices necessary to create a more just world. "Lean In" is a terrific book.

It is not, however, all things to all women. Many working women have good reason to feel unsafe about asking for more. Sandberg, anticipating critics, acknowledges the class issues at play, noting that, 鈥渢he vast majority of women are struggling to make ends meet and take care of their families,鈥� and that parts of her book are most relevant to women in a position to make choices, while other parts are relevant to all kinds of workplaces and homes.

Sandberg also sidesteps the question of the ways that the 鈥渉ave it all鈥� myth impacts women who are not mothers and married. Women who are single and without kids also struggle to balance their personal and professional lives, though in different ways, and their challenges merit exploration. But single women are offered only an anecdotal nod in chapters like 鈥淢ake Your Partner a Real Partner.鈥� The absence inadvertently affirms the narrow assumptions in the 鈥渉ave it all myth鈥� 鈥� that working women are married, about to be married, or else, their work/life balance challenges are of no significance.

Sandberg describes writing this book as her own act of leaning in 鈥� moving out of her professional comfort zone. I believe her. To her critics who feel that there is more to the story about women and work: They鈥檙e right. I hope they write other good books. In true "Lean In"聽spirit, one token leading voice is not enough. We need a critical mass in the conversation, collectively overhauling the idea of what鈥檚 possible in the lives of women.

The stakes are too high to stay quiet and abide the status quo. We risking limiting yet another generation if we stay silent.

鈥� Anna Clark is a contributor to 海角大神