'A real rock:' The one-of-a-kind warmth and steel of Barbara Bush
The first time Colin Powell met Barbara Bush, they were seated next to each other at a French Embassy luncheon. General Powell was an Army corps commander at the time 鈥� not yet a top Washington insider 鈥� and he was intimidated, a bit, by the formality of the situation. So he turned and said, 鈥淗ow do you do, Mrs. Bush? I鈥檓 very pleased to be with you.鈥澛�
鈥淐all me Barbara,鈥� she replied.
鈥淣o, I can鈥檛 do that... you鈥檙e the Vice President鈥檚 wife,鈥� Powell said, as he recounts the story in an oral history recorded by the University of Virginia.
鈥淐all me Barbara,鈥� insisted Mrs. Bush.
鈥淢y mother would kill me,鈥� said Powell.
鈥淚f you don鈥檛 call me Barbara,听滨鈥檒濒 kill you,鈥� Mrs. Bush said.
Barbara Bush, wife of one president, mother of another, distant relative of a third (Franklin Pierce), combined warmth and steel in a genuine manner that made her one of the most popular first ladies in American history. She passed away on Tuesday at her home in Houston, according to a Bush family announcement.
Mrs. Bush was capable of moving displays of empathy, as when she cuddled an AIDS baby, at a time when the illness was not well understood, to show it could not be transmitted by contact. Her many appearances for literacy programs were legendary. White House butlers, maids, cooks, Secret Service agents, and, yes, reporters, could all attest to her thoughtfulness and insistence on treating them as people, not props.
Colin Powell said they grew to become great friends. Many other officials felt the same way.
At the same time, her family sometimes called her 鈥渢he Enforcer.鈥� Woe to anyone she saw as undermining George H. W. Bush. She said what she thought 鈥� including, when son Jeb was thinking of running for president in 2016, that maybe the White House had seen enough Bushes for now.
In 2013, a C-SPAN interviewer asked her what advice she would give to the nation鈥檚 first first husband. 鈥淪ame thing I鈥檇 give the first wife, which is to be yourself,鈥� she said. 鈥淎nd see if you can watch your mouth. I had trouble with that.鈥�
The teenage Barbara Pierce met young George Bush at a Christmas dance in Greenwich, Conn. She thought maybe the pretty red and green dress loaned by a friend of her mother caught his eye. They saw each other the next night at a dance in Rye, N.Y. (the two tony suburbs exchanged holiday dances in those days), and that was that.
Long story short, they married in Rye on Jan. 6, 1945, with George on leave from the Navy. He went to Yale, they started a family, he graduated, they moved to Texas, he went into the oil business, made some money, got into Republican politics, won and lost Senate and House races. He moved into higher GOP circles, served as chair of the Republican National Committee, Ambassador to China, Director of Central Intelligence, then Vice President to President Ronald Reagan. He won the Oval Office outright in November, 1988.
Along the way they moved 27 times. It was Barbara who oversaw the packing, Barbara who sat every day with their young daughter Robin as she passed away from leukemia, Barbara who raised the five other children, Barbara who organized the food and the games when her husband filled the house with guests for dinner, as he loved to do.
Timothy McBride, George H. W. Bush鈥檚 personal assistant, says his boss filled their schedule with people and activity to Barbara鈥檚 鈥済reat annoyance.鈥澛� At one point, Mr. McBride told the University of Virginia, the then-president came to him and said: 鈥淚 have an idea for entertainment. There鈥檚 this chainsaw juggler who鈥檚 really fantastic.鈥�
In Barbara Bush鈥檚 White House, the chainsaw juggler never appeared.
As first lady, Mrs. Bush always emphasized the beauty and history of the White House. During a 1989 interview with The Monitor鈥檚 Charlotte Saikowski, she extolled the building鈥檚 family quarters and even the place settings.
鈥淭oday, I had lunch off [Woodrow] Wilson鈥檚 plates, sometimes I have lunch off Lincoln鈥檚 plates,鈥� Bush said.
Pressed on several matters of policy, the first lady answered politely, but not at length. Yes, she supported her husband鈥檚 nominee for Defense secretary, former Sen. John Tower (he was eventually rejected by the Senate due to concerns about personal behavior). What about Lt. Col. Oliver North, charged with various offenses related to the Iran/Contra affair?
鈥淚 think he鈥檚 innocent until proven guilty,鈥� said Mrs. Bush, tersely. (North was convicted, but the judgment was vacated and overturned and the charges later dismissed.)
At the time, the nation鈥檚 expectations for a modern first lady were changing, from the helpmeet model of the past to a more engaged, issue-oriented spouse. Mrs. Bush was determined to not be Nancy Reagan, a first lady criticized for alleged meddling in staff affairs, as well as her taste for expensive clothes, and general icy reserve. At the same time, she did not have an advanced degree like Hillary Clinton and Michelle Obama (law) or Laura Bush (library sciences).
鈥淚 think people don鈥檛 feel threatened by me ... I think people think it is nice that you really love your husband and your children and your dog,鈥� she told Ms. Saikowski.
鈥淚 don鈥檛 even mind cats,鈥� she added. In many of her remarks, there was that touch of wry at the end.
Literacy was Mrs. Bush鈥檚 biggest domestic focus. She made many appearances for reading programs and Head Start around the country. It was a private as well as a public interest. One Bush White House aide with a child who had learning differences remembers her interest in his problem, and how she walked him through all options, discussing what might be best for his family.
Another remembers the evident closeness between the first couple. Taping a public service announcement together, they kept making each other laugh, leading to reels of outtakes, he said.
Mrs. Bush always emphasized that her pearls were fake, but her white hair was real. It was this self-deprecation, combined with obvious strength, which made her one of the most popular first ladies ever, according to former Bush officials.
Sigmund Rogich, a former assistant to President Bush and Ambassador to Iceland, contrasted Barbara Bush with another popular first lady, Jackie Kennedy.
Mrs. Kennedy was all about glamour. The Kennedy-Camelot aura was one of superstardom, almost as if it were a movie set, Mr. Rogich told the University of Virginia Presidential Oral History Project.
鈥淏arbara Bush was a shoulder to put a head on,鈥澛燫ogich said.聽鈥淪he provided strength and character. Not that Jackie Kennedy didn鈥檛, but she did in a different kind of way. I thought Barbara was a real rock.鈥澛�
