Suicide rescue ends in tragedy: How to help friends in crisis
Two men fell out a 14th-story window in a University of Hawaii dormitory early Sunday morning, Honolulu police said.
A 24-year-old man was reportedly trying to pull a 19-year-old down from the ledge when both men fell out. The older one was pronounced dead at a hospital, and as of Monday the teen was still in critical condition.
University of Hawaii spokesman Dan Meisenzahl said neither man was a student at the school, but were in the dorm because a student who lived there had invited people over.
"It's a terrible tragedy 鈥� the last thing we want to happen ... whether they are students or not," Mr. Meisenzahl said. "Of course, our condolences go out to their friends and family."
Intervening in a suicide attempt clearly can be dangerous for both parties, but remaining calm, since 鈥渁ny intense or negative emotional reaction from a family member or friend can exacerbate [the suicidal person鈥檚] fragility.鈥�
Calling 911 and engaging the person by asking non-judgmental questions or validating their feelings by saying something like, 鈥淚t sounds as if that was a very difficult experience for you鈥� can also be helpful.
Ultimately, though, experts also warn against taking on too much of another鈥檚 burden by oneself 鈥� self-blame for another鈥檚 suicide attempt, whether or not it is successful, is common, as is feeling the need to keep a loved one鈥檚 thoughts or plans secret. If a loved one is contemplating suicide, one or feel responsible for the person鈥檚 actions.
According to the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, some that someone may be thinking about suicide are isolating oneself from family and friends or reaching out to say goodbye include, increased use of drugs or alcohol, reckless behavior, aggression, talk of hopelessness, or voicing the intent to take one鈥檚 own life or making specific plans.
If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, the will connect you with a trained counselor at a crisis center near you at any hour of any day, and can be reached at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).
This report contains material from the Associated Press.
