Alexa Ray Joel: Stepping into her own spotlight
Billy Joel鈥檚 daughter Alexa Ray Joel is playing in New York at the same time as her famous father Billy Joel, demonstrating that she can be daddy鈥檚 girl without being 鈥渢he piano girl.鈥�
听奥丑颈濒别听 plays Madison Square Garden, his daughter will be performing April 1-12 at the famed Cafe Carlyle in the Carlyle Hotel on Manhattan鈥檚 Upper East Side.
Of her musical style, Ms. Joel told , 鈥淚t鈥檚 a bit more soulful, more blues than my dad鈥檚,鈥� she said of her 2006 EP. 鈥淗e鈥檚 more pop rock. And his piano playing is better than mine, but that鈥檚 okay. I don鈥檛 want to be the Piano Girl.鈥�
My guess is that no matter what style she chose, Mr. Joel would tell her, 鈥淚 love you just the way you are.鈥�
In fact, as part of a new Gap advertisement, Joel performs her own rendition of her father鈥檚 famous song 鈥淛ust the Way You Are.鈥�
鈥淚 had to take it and rework it and kind of personalize it,鈥� she told Katie Couric during a 鈥淜atie鈥� interview.
I think that鈥檚 what we all hope our children will do with the lessons and life paths we share with them. We hope that rather than becoming carbon copies of us, they will internalize the message, rework it to fit their natures, and make these things their own.
Of course, that doesn鈥檛 stop parents from fretting and fussing when kids seem to have followed their own drummer to lands where we don鈥檛 feel at home.
In our family, my husband has tried for 20 years to get just one of our four sons to become a sailing nut like dear old dad. It鈥檚 been a spectacular bust for the most part, because he鈥檚 so zealous that the boys fear they will never meet with his approval on his home turf, and so they avoid it entirely.
However, the breathing room that comes with sending a kid to college recently showed us that a child can keep lessons learned from a parent on the inside for some time. Those lessons learned can jump out when we least expect them.
Two weeks ago, my oldest son, Zoltan, 20, a college crew team leader and national medalist 鈥� who has shunned sailing 鈥� came home from college for the weekend.
When my husband asked if he鈥檇 like to try sailing in a few races against him that afternoon at an event he鈥檇 organized, Zoltan shocked us all by hopping on a sailboat, joining the race, and giving his father a run for his money.
鈥淚 am so proud of him,鈥� my husband said afterward. 鈥淗e鈥檚 not like me, but he found his own way to his own boat and still can do what I do.鈥�
In the case of the Joel family, Alexa Ray Joel聽says she isn鈥檛 the piano player her father is, 鈥渂ut that鈥檚 okay.鈥�
While this is definitely a case of 鈥渓ike father, like daughter,鈥� Alexa Ray Joel聽credits both her mother and father with her success and an emotional comeback after her 2009 suicide attempt after a relationship breakup, according to .
鈥淒ad always builds me up; he helped me get perspective back,鈥� she told The Inquisitor. 鈥淢y mom and I have more heart-to-hearts now鈥� I鈥檓 in a Zen good place.鈥�
All any of us really wants for our kids is for them to be in a 鈥済ood place鈥� emotionally, financially, physically, and spiritually.
Seeing Alexa Ray and Billy both performing in New York in their own shows is reassurance that we can find a harmonious balance with our kids.
