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Judging by the just-released documentary聽, about a Chinese 鈥淚nternet addiction鈥� treatment center, it鈥檚 loneliness that鈥檚 at the heart of what the Chinese officially call a clinical disorder (more often called 鈥減roblematic Internet use鈥� in the West).

If you can get past the boot-camp-like conditions and young patients鈥� (inmates鈥�?) tears, you鈥檒l get to a scene 鈥� at 4:50 into the 7-min.聽聽鈥� that鈥檚 just as dramatic but in a different way. The psychiatrist who runs the treatment center, Prof. Tao Ran, who is also a military officer, is talking to patients鈥� parents, who are encouraged to stay at the center and participate in their children鈥檚 treatment.

鈥淥ne of the biggest issues among these kids is loneliness,鈥� he tells the parents. 鈥淒id you know they feel lonely? So where do they look for companions? The Internet. They know the Internet inside and out, but nothing about human beings.鈥�

I was struck by this statement. The treatment explicitly refers to 鈥淚nternet addiction,鈥� but what it appears to be addressing 鈥� based on the patients鈥� interviews, the footage from "World of Warcraft" and video of kids playing multiplayer online games in Chinese Internet cafes 鈥� is much more specific: so-called gaming addiction.

So much of the experience of multiplayer games is interactive and collaborative. It could well be seen as an antidote for loneliness. In saying that these young gamers know 鈥渘othing about human beings,鈥� perhaps the professor is saying they know 鈥渘othing about human beings鈥澛�in offline life and relationships聽because there鈥檚 some sort of deficit there.

No siblings, fearful parents

As the film progresses, online magazine聽, 鈥渨e slowly see the value of the treatment as it rebuilds family relationships.鈥� And there鈥檚 an important cultural reference that offers context: 鈥淭he teenagers don鈥檛 have any siblings. One boy suggests that it鈥檚 [China's] one-child policy that makes them lonely in the first place and drives them to the MMORPGs (massively multiplayer online role-playing games) they compulsively play.鈥� Prof. Tao says to the parents: 鈥淐riticizing, accusing and blaming. You think these are the best ways to make them change, reflect and make progress?鈥�

Many Westerners will find the documentary disturbing, but 鈥� as the Motherboard article points out 鈥� it鈥檚 not about a particular culture. There are some universals. Writer Whitney Mallett interviewed the film鈥檚 creators, Israeli filmmakers Shosh Shlam and Hilla Medalia, about their premiere at the Sundance Film Festival, and they told of a question from an American mother in the Q&A after the screening: She 鈥渢old us she has a 20-year-old who is addicted to internet games and has been going in and out of rehab, and every time he will go through a program, when he comes back home, again the problem arises because the internet is such an integral part of your life 鈥� unlike heroin, where you can and should live without it. Here it鈥檚 like, how do you moderate it?鈥�

How much is technology the problem?

They have a point. But it鈥檚 probably a聽little聽bit easier if we鈥檙e very clear and specific on what it is that鈥檚 difficult to moderate 鈥� e.g., multiplayer game play rather than all Internet use as a whole 鈥� and what the compulsive use of it is compensating for. Besides loneliness or a deeper sense of connection in offline life, it could also be disengagement or boredom at school.

The opposites of those conditions are found in multiplayer online games. Here鈥檚 how author and game designer Jane McGonigal describes the experience in her 2010聽:

鈥淭here are lots and lots of characters willing to trust you with a world-saving mission, a mission perfectly matched to your current level in the game, though challenging you on the edge of your capability. You have hundreds of thousands of potential collaborators at your fingertips and an inspiring epic story urging you on, with constant feedback and support from peers. You are on the verge of an epic win all the time.鈥�

She added that, 鈥渋n game worlds, we become the best version of ourselves,鈥� whereas in the real world, 鈥渨e face obstacles, we feel anxious, overwhelmed, frustrated, cynical.鈥�

I think these filmmakers captured something important for parents and mental health practitioners alike: that although this 鈥渁ddiction鈥� seems new because it involves technology, it鈥檚 actually as old as our need for connection, mastery, and play.

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