"You put special trust in bringing up children by means of irony, and this was most in keeping with your superiority over me. An admonition from you generally took this form: 'Can't you do it in such-and-such a way? That's too hard for you, I suppose. You haven't the time, of course?' and so on. And each such question would be accompanied by malicious laughter and a malicious face. One was, so to speak, already punished before one even knew that one had done something bad."
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The first page of Kafka's letter to his father.